Some things are easier said than done—and others are easier written rather than expressed verbally. Starting a couples journal with your significant other can serve many purposes when it comes to enhancing your relationship. Sometimes, you may be too nervous or embarrassed to tell them your thoughts out loud, and other times, you might just be feeling sentimental. Here are some of the ways you can use a relationship journal.
As your relationship blossoms, there will be memories that deserve their own page in a scrapbook. Strong, happy memories might call for some relationship insurance in the form of a recap and photographs in your couples’ journal. Sure, social media is the scene, but some things are better kept cherished! It’s best to jot down your experience right after you’ve had it—you won’t want to lose those raw emotions by editing yourself too much.
Leave compliments for one another
Having a couples’ journal doesn’t always mean contributing to it every time your partner does. That being said, you can take a moment to leave compliments for them, especially on days your partner might need a word of encouragement—even when you’re just talking about how much you enjoyed them washing the dishes. Everyone needs to be appreciated once in a while.
Share goals, hopes, and dreams
When in a relationship, you’ll sometimes find your head in the clouds. Better yet, those clouds will sometimes be within reach. List down your goals, hopes, and dreams as a couple, even when that adventure is simply going to see a film you’ve been putting off for too long, or something grander, like a vacation. Not to mention a section like this in your couples’ journal can put a lot into perspective.
Use your journal as a tool for communication
Every now and then, you can become fed up with your relationship—and you wouldn’t be the only once. Some of those times, communicating can be more difficult than usual, especially when you need the space to recuperate and re-evaluate. Take advantage of using your journal as a method of communication.
Perhaps you can’t stop thinking about a difficult question you’ve been wanting or ask or were hurt by something your partner once said to you. Share stories and write letters to one another that can eventually prompt a discussion. Refrain from complaining. Instead, treat your love journal as a positive space, wherein an issue is followed up by a resolution.
Inspire one another
Among other things, a couples’ journal can be a great way to inspire one another when days seem tougher than usual. Are you a big fan of motivational speeches? Note down lines that both you and your partner may find useful on the daily or at some point in the future. List obstacles you’ve overcome together and how these can serve as a benchmark of what’s to come.
Save mementos and look back at your best moments
Despite today’s boom in technology, you won’t always have a photograph of your favorite memories. Instead, you may be holding onto a memento such as a ticket stub or ribbon from a present you received. We heard the 90s are making a comeback, so take advantage of the “little nothings” you’ve saved over the years and tape them to your scrapbook. As your relationship flowers, you’ll have dozens, if not hundreds of poems, notes, and cards to look back on.
There are no boundaries to a relationship journal and each one is totally unique from another. Some stories are told in words. Others, in photographs. At Set in Soul, we love to empower and encourage self-reflection. If you’re interested in starting a “best self journal” don’t worry! We’ve got you covered.